A podcast for men who don’t fit neatly into society’s boxes.
Who This Is For
Maybe your life appears straight on the outside, but isn’t so straight on the inside. Maybe you’re bi or gay, but don’t fit neatly into the spaces designed for you. Maybe you don't have a word for what you are — and maybe you don't want one.
Either way, you exist somewhere in the middle — and the world doesn't have a lot of space for that.
Middle Men does.
No labels. No judgment. No set of beliefs you need to adopt. No need to come out and blow up the life you’ve built. No pressure to be anything but your true self.
Latest Podcast Episodes
Episode 4 — Why I never Felt Gay Enough — And What I Did About It
My experience of living as a gay man for 15 years and not feeling gay enough. Plus, research that shows I’m far from the only one. | August, 4 2026
Episode 5 — Why Dating Apps Don’t Always Fix Loneliness | What We’re Really Searching For
Dating apps have their place, but if you still haven’t found what you’re looking for yet, there is another option. | August 25, 2026
Middle Men was founded and created by Brendan O’Hara, a creative professional, athlete, musician, and now podcast host.
Middle Men on Substack
Articles written and published by Brendan, Middle Men’s founder.
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Are You a Middle Man?
Most have never said it out loud. Never found a name for it. Never met another one.
We created an anonymous survey to understand who Middle Men really are. No name required. No email required. Just honest answers.
When you finish, you'll see how your experience compares to other guys who've taken it. How many other guys out there are like you? Take the survey to find out.
Takes 12-15 minutes. Completely anonymous.
A Community Where You Can Finally Be Your True Self
There's a private, online community of Middle Men waiting for you. No real name required. No judgment. Just guys who get it.
For $10 a month you get:
Private discussion boards for every corner of Middle Men life — relationships, mental health, faith/spirituality, sexual health, fitness (running, strength training, surfing, hunting/outdoors)
A community of like-minded people who actually understand you
Live Q&A video sessions with Brendan, Middle Men’s founder and podcast host
A jobs board where Middle Men hire other Middle Men
Early access to Middle Men articles
$10/month
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